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So, while Homegirl NYC is all about the awesomeness of girls, we would be remiss not to mention the greatness of some guys. “We give props to those who deserve it and believe me, y’all he’s worth it

According to the NY Post (I know), basketball star Amar’e Stouemire, went to Rikers Island on Friday to “spit the truth to the young black youth,” speaking to a room full young men, ages 16 to 18, incarcerated at the facility. His talk, which was by all accounts well received, focused on encouraging them to think about their lives, to want better for themselves and make a real effort not to go back to jail once released.

Stoudemire, a power forward for the Knicks who receives just as much press for what he wears off the court as he does for how he plays on it, was on a panel with former basketball players John Wallace and Etan Thomas, Macolm Shabazz (grandson of Malcolm X), Styles P from the Lox and sports commentator Chris Broussard.

According to the Post, Stoudemire told the young men, “The plan for us is not to succeed, and it goes back to when there was slavery.” “What you got to do is look at yourself in the mirror and say: ‘What am I going to do so I will not be a number?’

Good question. I hope that in addition to their talk, the panelists stay involved and start (or continue) investing in finding real solutions, like building/providing support systems necessary to help ex-offenders really make changes in their lives.

By now we all know that life isn’t fair. And that it doesn’t spread it’s unfairness around evenly—some people get too much, while others never seem to get enough. So what do you do when it seems like life keeps picking on you? Whatever it takes to change your circumstances.

 

Timeica E. Bethel talks about the long journey from the projects to Yale. Image courtesy of msnbc.com.

Meet Timeica Bethel, a college senior who grew up rough. Her drug-adicted mother abandoned her when she was three and sent Timeica (and her three siblings) to live with their grandmother in the LeClair Courts public housing projects in Chicago. Timeica loved to read, excelled in school, got a scholarship to private high school and went to Yale University, where she’s now a senior. She graduates in May and plans to go back home and teach the kids who are now live where she’s from that anything’s possible. Check out her interview with msnbc and see what she has to say for herself.

And I’m not trying to get all “where there’s a will there’s a way” preachy on you, but don’t let people kill your dreams.

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Happy New Year, girlies! (I know, I know…said as I hang my head in shame). But new year, new things, right? So…we’re back…AGAIN! Enough with the old, on to the new.

So, did you know that January is National Mentoring Month? Well, neither did I. But, I’m glad that it is. And I’m glad that I am a (new) mentor and that I have a mentee (hey, you!) that I adore. Yesterday we FINALLY went to go see Precious. I know, I know. But I read Precious way back in the day (I have an original hardcover copy of the book), so I had to mentally prepare myself to see the film.

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And I wanted to see it with my mentee. She mentioned to me that she had read the book (!) as well, and she wondered how different the movie would be, so I thought it would be a great idea for us to see it together.

Afterwards, we didn’t speak for at least 15 minutes. And that was as it should have been. The movie was a lot to process. I don’t think that I still have, completely. So I don’t want to give a critique of the movie, that’s been done, ad nauseum. If you haven’t read the book, read it. If you haven’t seen the movie, do so. And if you don’t know about the star, Gabby Sidibe, find out. What I really wanted to talk about is the larger message of literacy and the need for all of us to get involved…in some (what we think is small) way. If you are reading this, you can read. And that is one skill that you have that many others don’t. It’s one thing you know how to do that you can teach to someone else. Or one way that you can help somebody else.

One thing that struck me, as I sat in the movie theater on Sunday afternoon was how packed the place was…still. And this movie came out last year. And it’s not a “feel good” movie, or date-night romantic or action-packed. It’s gritty and raw and uncomfortable to watch. So I was glad to see so many people, so many different kinds of people (seriously, it was like the United Nations and the Special Olympics in there) coing out to support the film. And I thought, if just a fraction of everyone who went to see the movie decided, instead of say analyzing the film to death or comparing it to the book to the point of tears, to DO something (like volunteer to read to school children or to teach literacy to functioning illiterate adults) we could might actually change some lives. And that, after all, is the point, right?

And if teaching is not your thing, or literacy isn’t either, that’s okay, too. But figure out what you can do, and do it. If you would make a good peer mentor/counselor (do they still have those?), or coach, or math tutor, or assistant or volunteer of any kind, do that. If your contribution is just to not be a part of the crowd making fun of another student for not knowing how to read well, or because she doesn’t dress well enough, or smell nice, or look a certain way, or stand up for herself, be that better person. Be that friend, or at least that voice of reason who stands up for someone who really needs it.

In case you want to volunteer, but are unsure of where to start, here are a few links to help you out:

DoSomething.org is exactly what is sounds like…it provides resources to help you do something, even if you don’t know what that something it. So, go do it.

GrooveJob.com is a website that allows students and teens to search for internships and volunteer work by city or zip code. Here’s the link for volunteer opportunities.

Also, check out NYC Service. You can look for volunteer opportunities or even pledge a “Day of Service.” F.Y.I, there’s a “Day of Service” project coming up for the Martin Luther King, Jr. holiday.

If you are 17 or older, check out the year-long projects available at City Year.

And here is an article on the variety of opportunities around the city, from acting as a guide a Prospect Park Zoo, to volunteering at the ASPCA (you know, the organization with the sad-eyed animal commercials that make you go awwww…yeah. them. well, they protect animals and need clerical help), to helping out at a botanical garden, museum, library, tutoring younger kids, or helping elders.

Happy hunting!

That is all. For now.

A few days ago, it was announced that First Lady Michelle Obama is starting a mentoring program for 20 high schools girls in the DC area. The goal of the program is to teach the girls “life skills,” expose them into the inner workings of government, and pair them up with some of the most powerful women in government. “Second Lady Jill Biden, White House advisor Valerie Jarrett, Social Secretary Desiree Rogers, and several members of the first lady’s staff and the senior staff in the West Wing will serve as mentors.”

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According to the article, “the 20 protégées, who are sophomores and juniors, were chosen by principals at area high schools and include young women from military families.”

The program will last for a year and “will include financial literacy training and exposure to different career paths, as well as possible field trips with the first lady, advisors said.”

Score another one for The White House! I LOVE this! I’ve been saying for YEARS that D.C. government needed to create a mentoring program for girls in the area, but maybe now, someone will listen. I love the this is being done, but everyone (not just those at the top levels of government) need to get involved and give back. My only hope is that the girls selected will be ones who can really benefit the most from this type of exposure. Don’t get me wrong, any young woman would benefit (I know I would and I’ve been out of high school for a minute), but I know that at my high school and college, and most times in life, the “chosen ones” are the ones who will make it anyway. And it’s nice to choose the best, but  sometimes it’s better to give the overlooked a shot. My two cents.

Oh, and as not to leave the fellas out, “the West Wing also will launch a mentoring and leadership program for high school boys that the president will participate in, aides said.”

Check out the video, where the First Lady of The United States (FLOTUS) talks more about the program. And you can even read the remarks, courtesy of The Huffington Post. Sounds great to me. And don’t worry ladies, once we’re up and running, mentoring will definitely be a part of the program!

You know, there are just some celebs that you feel you can relate to; that you know you’d probably like even if they weren’t celebrities. Women who are from “around the way,” and have a certain “realness” to them more believable.  Women who’ve gone through tough times in their lives and are honest about it, which makes them more relatable, more likeable. People like Jada Pinkett Smith (who reps B-more) and Taraji P. Henson (D.C. all day) and of course, Mary J. So I’m always glad when I hear that one of them is giving back, especially when they’re helping girls/young women who are much like they were when they were younger.

This time, it’s Yonkers Homegirl Mary J. Blige, who recently opened the Mary J Blige Center for Women in the same community where she grew up.

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Mary J., who has always been everyone’s homegirl- the singer whose struggles in life and pain in love you could relate to- has spoken openly and honestly about growing up in Yonkers and all the drama and hardship she went through-  the drugs, the alcohol, the abuse, the violence, the self-esteem issues, the trust issues, the issues with men issues, the issues with other women issues… But she grew up and she got out. She became a celebrity and sang about her struggles in public. Then she grew up some more and found happiness with herself and in her life. Now, she is going back to her community, where drugs, violence, poverty and unemployment are still very much a part of people’s lives there and is doing her part to ease that road to a better life for other women.

According to The Mary J. Blige and Steve Stoute Foundation for the Advancement of Women Now, Inc. (FFAWN), which partnered with Westchester Jewish Community Services to open the center, it “will focus on helping young, single mothers enhance their parenting skills, obtain education and vocational support, and access individualized programs designed to help these women reach their goals and lead full, happy, productive and healthy lives. The services offered directly at the Center will include educational opportunities, employment preparation and job placement, childcare services and parenting skills training, self-esteem counseling, and assistance for victims of domestic violence and abuse.” And that’s only the beginning. It’s meant to be a one-stop show for women to get all the resources they need to improve their live in one place. Sounds dope right?

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Now this is the kind of celeb news you can use!

Kristin Cash became a fashion designer almost by accident. “I think the first thing I made was a Halloween costume because I couldn’t find anything to wear,” she said, “so I just made my own.” She bought a pattern from the store, changed it a little and made a corset and a frilly tulle skirt—the perfect costume for a pixie fairy.

When she wore the outfit to school, she got noticed. “People would see it and say, ‘where did you get that,’ and I’d say, ‘I made it,’” she said. Seeing how much people liked her designs, she started making more- without any formal training. “I taught myself completely,” she said.

So how did she learn to design on her own? “Some of it I just made up,” she said. She also Googled a lot, read some books her mother bought her and asked her grandmother, a sewer, for help. “It was definitely hard because I don’t exactly know what I’m doing, but it was really fun to me,” she said. “I really just kind of did it.”

Earlier this year, Kristin used her talent for a good cause, designing and hosting a fashion show to benefit the Jonathan B. Angelone Foundation, which educates kids about cancer.

Using Project Runway as her inspiration, Kristin starting planning the show, with the help of her teachers, family, and friends. One of her favorite teachers worked at Excess Studios, where Kristin held the show. A friend provided the music, her girlfriends modeled the clothes, and local businesses donated tuxedos for the guys, desserts and little gifts for her guests. But Kristin was responsible for creating the designs.

“It was so much work,” she said.  She finished sewing her last dress the morning of the show. She ended up creating 17 original designs in three categories,  innocent, elegant and edgy.  It was a lot of hard work, but “it was fun,” she said.

It was also for a good cause.

“Jonathan Angelone went to my high school,” Kristin said. “He was friends with my sister. He was diagnosed with cancer during his freshman year of college. His parents began the Jonathan B. Angelone foundation to inspire people to ‘Just Be Aware’ and to promote the early detection of cancer in people of all ages. I wanted to incorporate that into it, just so that it had something behind the fashion show,” she said. “Just so that it had a point to it.”

She also had Crazy Pitches, the a capella singing group Jonathan had been a part of, sing in between each category. “So it all kind of worked together,” she said.

They ended up raising $2,000.

Check out her designs here (move your cursor over each photo for info. on the model)

(Photographer:  Brandon Kornprobst)

Kristin is now an 18-year-old freshman at the Pratt Institute in Brooklyn, where she’s majoring in fashion. hg nyc caught up with Kristin during Fashion Week to see what she’s been up to recently.

Hg: Hi Kristin! Congrats on getting accepted to Pratt. How’s it been so far?

KC: It’s fun. The first week was kind of boring, I guess because we were getting introduced to the classes and everything. But, it’s going to be fun.

Hg: With so many fashion institutes in NY, why’d you choose Pratt?

KC: Pratt’s like one of the top schools. There’s Parsons, Pratt and FIT. Pratt is a really nice place, there’s a campus, which you really can’t find in New York; it has a nice environment, nice people. People just have fun, they’re all friends, there’s no competition. You also get to meet everyone from different majors like architecture, industrial design and photography, film, so you’re not just focused on fashion.

Hg: So what inspires your designs?

KC: Things I see, buildings, people.  Even if it’s other designers- I might see something and like it, but- I’ll change something about it. I like making things for specific people to wear, not just designing in general.

Hg: Who are you favorite designers?

KC: I love Betsey Johnson, her clothes are just fun. Bottega Veneta, whose clothes are every elegant. Christian Siriano from Project Runway, I love him. I like fun stuff.

Hg: What’s the hardest part about fashion design?

KC: Not knowing what I’m actually doing. For the fashion show, it was hard getting stuff out on time and finding time to design.

Hg: Do you think you’ll do another fashion show?

KC: Right now I’m focused on school. I don’t know if I’ll have time to do another fashion show. People at home were saying they want to make it an annual thing, but I don’t think so.

Hg: What’s your take on personal style?

KC: I like seeing other people wear whatever they like to wear, whatever makes them happy. I’m not really into that whole “colors for fall and you have to be in black or gray for winter” thing. Wear what you want, be happy!

Hg: What about your own style?

KC: Really just comfortable. I don’t have a specific style because I’ll just wear whatever. I shop cheap. I’ll do like H&M sometimes, Forever 21, Target for the basics, but I go cheap. I do not spend a lot of money on stuff. I’m a sale girl.

Hg: Did you go to Fashion’s Night Out?

KC: Yes and it was so much fun! We saw Taylor Momsen from GG, April from ANTM, and Lindsay Lohan. It was a fun night. We didn’t buy anything, we just walked around, but it was fun.

Hg: So what’s next for you? Maybe starting your own label…

KC: I really just kind of decided I love lingerie. It’s fun to look at and pretty. So that’s what I want to do- design lingerie. Only, I haven’t had the time. I’m thinking of naming the label Cashio- it was my great-grandparents’ name before they changed it; and it’s Italian and pretty.

Hg: Any advice for aspiring designers?

KC: If you love what you do and you want to do it, try anything. Figure out how you’re going to get to where you want to be and eventually you’ll figure it out and be happy.

Hey Homegirls!

Have any of you ever heard of something called Journey for Change? No? Well Journey for Change is the organization Malaak Compton-Rock founded in Bushwick, Brooklyn (where her husband, comedian Chris Rock grew up) to encourage and show young people how they can give back and be of service to others. This summer, Malaak took 30 kids from Brooklyn to South Africa (an 18-hour flight! and believe me, you feel every minute of it) to volunteer in some of the poorest communities there that have been ravaged by AIDS. It was the first time that a lot of the kids had been outside of the city, and definitely the country; a crash course in international education. They learned some Zulu, visited shantytowns and saw the exteme  poverty there (no electricity, an extended family living in a two-room shack, sharing bathrooms, no windows, no heat, no air), spent time playing with HIV-infected babies who didn’t have parents, learning traditional songs and dances, donated school supplies and clothes, and helped sew seeds for crops. They also took photos and video of their experiences. Amazing.

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Now, while this post is about Journey for Change, I want to take a quick moment to just point out that while the group visited a lot of poverty-stricken areas, all of South Africa is not like that; just like all parts of New York City are not the same. So in the same way Bushwick is different from Ft. Greene or Astoria is different from Forest Hills, Capetown is not Johannesburg (in fact, just like in neighborhoods in NYC or in cities here  in the U.S., you can have very different experiences on different parts of town). I know that because of the fraudulent way the mainstream media depicts stories about Africa, it’s easy to assume that it’s one monolithic place. It doesn’t help that every time you turn on the TV and see a Feed the Children commercial, there is a starving, crying, malnourished baby with a pot belly and flies surrounding him. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that there isn’t a lot of poverty across the continent, there definitely is, I’m just saying that there is also a lot of beauty. So keep an open mind.

Now, back to our regularly scheduled post.

I thought the story of Malaak and the Project for Change kids’ journey to South Africa, particularly the kinds of volunteer work that they did there, and the things they discovered, was very inspiring. Only, it’s too bad that the people it was meant to inspire- young people like you- have probably never heard of it. Sure, it was profiled on CNN‘s Black in America (you didn’t watch it? Well believe me, you didn’t miss much) and written about in about both Essence and Time for Kids. But do you read either of those publications? Probably not. That’s because a lot of (positive) stories written about young people are written for newspapers or magazines that only adults read. And the teen publications don’t cover these types of stories either. So that’s one of the reasons I started this blog- to try create a place where young people like you can go to find stories written about other teens who are from where you’re from (NYC, Jersey and Connecticut). So instead of only hearing about the negativity that makes it on the news, you can get a balanced picture of what it means to me young, creative and live in the city. The good and the bad. And the places and people (here in NYC) where you can go for help. In one convenience place…right here…at Homegirl NYC. Ok (Jumping off my soapbox).

If you are interested in reading more about Journey for Change (and I would highly recommend it), you can visit Malaak’s website (there are photos, and even videos from the kids who went on the trip and plenty of other information). You can also read about their incredible journey in Time for Kids and Essence.

What did you think of the stories? Would you be interested in going on a journey like that? Why? Why not?

Let me know what you think!